April 20, 2010
Today we saw Dylan like usual in the morning. In the afternoon at 1:30 Medet and Vera came to pick us up to go to the orphanage for our observation. Our appointment was at 2:00 but the judge, the prosecutor lawyer and a couple of other people showed up at 2:30. It’s a good thing because Dylan was very tired and was just sitting there and not doing much and they could have easily said that they don’t see a connection with Dylan and us. But by the time they came Dylan was awake and kept staring at them and looked a little scared but we played our famous game of I hold him by the hands and walked with him to Fil and vice versa and he was smiling and laughing when he reached us. The doctor of the orphanage was also there and she was explaining to the judge that Dylan was really premature and that he was really sick in the winter and explained all his medical history. He then went to the office to look over Dylan’s’ file and asked when our visa’s expired. Don’t know why but he said that he would have an answer by the end of April beginning of May!!!
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Court Date
April 19, 2010
We saw Dylan like usual at 9:30 to 11:30. There was a music teacher in the room playing the piano practicing for an upcoming event and Dylan was rocking himself to the music. It’s a good thing because he will hear a lot of music at home!!!
Today was court day and boy were we nervous. It went well and since Fil is the man and the men here have to do most of the talking in court, I have to say he did an Awesome Job!!!! He was a pack of nerves and just as we were waiting to be called Mr Fil had to go to the washroom. The problem is that the washroom was outside and not very close. Somehow he always has to go to the washroom when it’s not the right time but I guess the nerves took a bigger part of him!! He made it back on time…
There was the judge, the prosecutor lawyer, the short hand typist (but here they write everything by hand), the director of the orphanage, the secretary of the ministry of education, Vera our coordinator/translator and Medit our coordinator and witness.
The judge asked Fil the following questions: to describe himself, our home, his family, what he did for a living, why did we choose Kazakhstan, what made us choose Dylan, how was the bonding with Dylan in December, & why don’t we have children of our own.
The judge then asked me who lives with us, was I married before, how long have we been married, what is the medical reason why we don’t have children, why we chose Dylan, & what I do for a living.
At the end he asked me if I wanted to add something and I said, “We Love Dylan and we want to bring him home, we have good hospitals and good schools.” I know I can have a big mouth sometimes but I’m not very good when I’m put on the spot and I had a little hard time elaborating in my responses but I think I did ok.
At the end the judge said he would have his answer by the end of next week.
I don’t understand we are doing just a beautiful thing but we felt like criminals.
We saw Dylan like usual at 9:30 to 11:30. There was a music teacher in the room playing the piano practicing for an upcoming event and Dylan was rocking himself to the music. It’s a good thing because he will hear a lot of music at home!!!
Today was court day and boy were we nervous. It went well and since Fil is the man and the men here have to do most of the talking in court, I have to say he did an Awesome Job!!!! He was a pack of nerves and just as we were waiting to be called Mr Fil had to go to the washroom. The problem is that the washroom was outside and not very close. Somehow he always has to go to the washroom when it’s not the right time but I guess the nerves took a bigger part of him!! He made it back on time…
There was the judge, the prosecutor lawyer, the short hand typist (but here they write everything by hand), the director of the orphanage, the secretary of the ministry of education, Vera our coordinator/translator and Medit our coordinator and witness.
The judge asked Fil the following questions: to describe himself, our home, his family, what he did for a living, why did we choose Kazakhstan, what made us choose Dylan, how was the bonding with Dylan in December, & why don’t we have children of our own.
The judge then asked me who lives with us, was I married before, how long have we been married, what is the medical reason why we don’t have children, why we chose Dylan, & what I do for a living.
At the end he asked me if I wanted to add something and I said, “We Love Dylan and we want to bring him home, we have good hospitals and good schools.” I know I can have a big mouth sometimes but I’m not very good when I’m put on the spot and I had a little hard time elaborating in my responses but I think I did ok.
At the end the judge said he would have his answer by the end of next week.
I don’t understand we are doing just a beautiful thing but we felt like criminals.
Cowboy!!!
April 18, 2010
Day 4 with Dylan, and everything is going better. When we went to pick him up in his room, he was in a big park and when he saw us he cracked a little smile and did not stop staring. We were at the door calling out his name and he was smiling and hiding his face because he was shy. The caregiver then takes our diaper and clothes if we wish to change him and changes him and hands him over to us. She was having a hard time changing him because he kept turning to us to look at us and she screamed at him not to move :o( I don’t like her!!
We give him little snacks for him to take by himself and today he gets them right in his mouth with no problems. The 1st day he had trouble getting them in his mouth and today he got them right in. It’s such a little thing but for us it’s big because we see with our very own eyes that with our stimulation he has the capabilities of doing it.
After lunch exactly at 2:00, Kasim the owner of the house and daughter Kundese came to pick us up to take us to his farm. We really did not feel like going and we were a little scared it would be a wild horse but we had no choice to go and Nathalie and I said we were just going to watch. Fil got on the horse with no problem and Kasims’ employee took him for a very safe ride. Nathalie then
decided to do some too because she saw it was safe and the horse was not wild. Me on the other hand well I passed because I was a little scared and that’s all I needed is to fall off the horse the day before court. As we headed back we saw a lamb drinking milk from a dog. They told us the lamb had no mother and the dog just had puppies, what a picture, it was Beautiful and very strange at the same time…(picture attached) Kasim has a VERY poor family that works for him that lives at the farm and takes care of his sheep, horses and the rest of the animals that he has. It smelled awful on the farm and I noticed that they hung clothes outside and I said to myself these people must never have that nice fresh clean smell of clothes but they looked happy and were very nice and inviting. Fil was acting his usual crazy self and was making everyone laugh even if they did not understand most of what he was saying… LOL!!! He was repeating what they were saying and they were laughing at him. From something we did not feel like doing ended up being an amazing experience. We got to see another part of their culture and it was nice to see. We then invited them in for tea to thank them for their gesture. I have to add that Kasim is very handsome, extremely nice and he adores Fil. He pronounces Fil’s name…. FEEL, too funny!!! Kasim is having a 5th child next month and Fil told him to call him FEEL, we all cracked up of laughter… it was a very nice distraction to go to the farm!!!!!
Day 4 with Dylan, and everything is going better. When we went to pick him up in his room, he was in a big park and when he saw us he cracked a little smile and did not stop staring. We were at the door calling out his name and he was smiling and hiding his face because he was shy. The caregiver then takes our diaper and clothes if we wish to change him and changes him and hands him over to us. She was having a hard time changing him because he kept turning to us to look at us and she screamed at him not to move :o( I don’t like her!!
We give him little snacks for him to take by himself and today he gets them right in his mouth with no problems. The 1st day he had trouble getting them in his mouth and today he got them right in. It’s such a little thing but for us it’s big because we see with our very own eyes that with our stimulation he has the capabilities of doing it.
After lunch exactly at 2:00, Kasim the owner of the house and daughter Kundese came to pick us up to take us to his farm. We really did not feel like going and we were a little scared it would be a wild horse but we had no choice to go and Nathalie and I said we were just going to watch. Fil got on the horse with no problem and Kasims’ employee took him for a very safe ride. Nathalie then
decided to do some too because she saw it was safe and the horse was not wild. Me on the other hand well I passed because I was a little scared and that’s all I needed is to fall off the horse the day before court. As we headed back we saw a lamb drinking milk from a dog. They told us the lamb had no mother and the dog just had puppies, what a picture, it was Beautiful and very strange at the same time…(picture attached) Kasim has a VERY poor family that works for him that lives at the farm and takes care of his sheep, horses and the rest of the animals that he has. It smelled awful on the farm and I noticed that they hung clothes outside and I said to myself these people must never have that nice fresh clean smell of clothes but they looked happy and were very nice and inviting. Fil was acting his usual crazy self and was making everyone laugh even if they did not understand most of what he was saying… LOL!!! He was repeating what they were saying and they were laughing at him. From something we did not feel like doing ended up being an amazing experience. We got to see another part of their culture and it was nice to see. We then invited them in for tea to thank them for their gesture. I have to add that Kasim is very handsome, extremely nice and he adores Fil. He pronounces Fil’s name…. FEEL, too funny!!! Kasim is having a 5th child next month and Fil told him to call him FEEL, we all cracked up of laughter… it was a very nice distraction to go to the farm!!!!!
April 17, 2010
Day 3 of seeing Dylan and it went really well. It’s really a difference from day 1 and he’s slowly getting more used to us. We play a game with him as I hold him he runs to Fil and then Fil grabs him and he runs back to me. But the best part is when he reaches us he cracks up of laughter, tooo cute!!! We did that about 5 times and he was dead tired and fell asleep. He’s not used to so much physical activity because it really drained him. The caregivers don’t want him to sleep because they have a schedule to follow and it will disrupt all his rest of the day. At 1st I could not understand why they insisted that the children in the 2 hour bonding period do not fall asleep but now I totally understand because if he’s awake while the others are taking their nap he will wake them up and disrupt everyone’s schedule. But it’s still very difficult not to make him sleep when all he wants to do is sleep. We were holding him standing up and he still would fall asleep. So we made him sleep for about 15 minutes and woke him up before someone came in.
After lunch we went to the internet café but it was really slow and everything is in Russian and we could not make anything work so we then went for a beer at a restaurant, 2 huge beers and a coffee $2.00, what a bargain!!!! Later that evening the owner of the house came by with his 3 kids and brought us a fairly new computer and we finally have internet. We are still having problems getting in our blog. We had a real good laugh trying to communicate with each other.
The owner of the house and his kids ARE SUPER SUPER NICE!!!! He then asked Fil if he horse back rides and Fil said yes and he then told us he would pick us up at 2:00 the following day to take us to his farm where he has his horses.
Day 3 of seeing Dylan and it went really well. It’s really a difference from day 1 and he’s slowly getting more used to us. We play a game with him as I hold him he runs to Fil and then Fil grabs him and he runs back to me. But the best part is when he reaches us he cracks up of laughter, tooo cute!!! We did that about 5 times and he was dead tired and fell asleep. He’s not used to so much physical activity because it really drained him. The caregivers don’t want him to sleep because they have a schedule to follow and it will disrupt all his rest of the day. At 1st I could not understand why they insisted that the children in the 2 hour bonding period do not fall asleep but now I totally understand because if he’s awake while the others are taking their nap he will wake them up and disrupt everyone’s schedule. But it’s still very difficult not to make him sleep when all he wants to do is sleep. We were holding him standing up and he still would fall asleep. So we made him sleep for about 15 minutes and woke him up before someone came in.
After lunch we went to the internet café but it was really slow and everything is in Russian and we could not make anything work so we then went for a beer at a restaurant, 2 huge beers and a coffee $2.00, what a bargain!!!! Later that evening the owner of the house came by with his 3 kids and brought us a fairly new computer and we finally have internet. We are still having problems getting in our blog. We had a real good laugh trying to communicate with each other.
The owner of the house and his kids ARE SUPER SUPER NICE!!!! He then asked Fil if he horse back rides and Fil said yes and he then told us he would pick us up at 2:00 the following day to take us to his farm where he has his horses.
April 16, 2010
I decided to shave everything to see if Dylan would have a different reaction to me. We went at the orphanage in the morning and Mary and I both went upstairs to get him and guess what he wasn’t scared anymore. Wow!!!! He was doing better today. He was getting in his comfort zone a little more but still wasn’t sure about us.
After lunch we decided to go for walk and go to the internet café cause our computer still wasn’t’ working. We tried to email some pictures but it would take to much time so we waited till our computer at home would get fixed. By the way I hadn’t mentioned in the previous days that both toilet sinks were leaking and we had “Cockroaches”. I’ve never seen so many per day, I would say about 10 per day. Unbelievable!!!! Disgusting!!!
We then met Nathalie at the restaurant from the previous night cause we could have used our computer for the WiFi and it was free. Plus Nathalie had her English course and we then met her there. The name of the restaurant is “The Bear”. We spent some time there and guess what I couldn’t get a signal for the internet. The story of our lives. Wow!!!
We then went for supper at a restaurant called “Medley”. It was ok. We had a few laughs and a good time.
I decided to shave everything to see if Dylan would have a different reaction to me. We went at the orphanage in the morning and Mary and I both went upstairs to get him and guess what he wasn’t scared anymore. Wow!!!! He was doing better today. He was getting in his comfort zone a little more but still wasn’t sure about us.
After lunch we decided to go for walk and go to the internet café cause our computer still wasn’t’ working. We tried to email some pictures but it would take to much time so we waited till our computer at home would get fixed. By the way I hadn’t mentioned in the previous days that both toilet sinks were leaking and we had “Cockroaches”. I’ve never seen so many per day, I would say about 10 per day. Unbelievable!!!! Disgusting!!!
We then met Nathalie at the restaurant from the previous night cause we could have used our computer for the WiFi and it was free. Plus Nathalie had her English course and we then met her there. The name of the restaurant is “The Bear”. We spent some time there and guess what I couldn’t get a signal for the internet. The story of our lives. Wow!!!
We then went for supper at a restaurant called “Medley”. It was ok. We had a few laughs and a good time.
The Reunion At Last
April 15, 2010
Off we went to see Dylan at the orphanage from 9:30 to 11:30. Wow! When he saw me and approached me he was so scared and crying softly cause I had my pinch and I hadn’t shaved. It really made me feel bad inside but I could understand the situation. So it was kind of the beginning of the first time when we met him at bonding period, where Dylan was analyzing us and wasn’t so sure about us. It was a little discouraging but we tried to be as positive as possible. Mary began crying as soon as we drove up in front of the orphanage and when we all went upstairs to his room she began crying a lot when she saw him. Nathalie was also crying with her, it was very emotional!!!! The caregivers and Medet felt really bad.
We went for supper with Nathalie, Jeremy and Becky (from Philadelphia) and Randy and Marsha (from Wisconsin) who are all in the process of adopting. We really had a nice time and it was a real good distraction after the day we had.
Off we went to see Dylan at the orphanage from 9:30 to 11:30. Wow! When he saw me and approached me he was so scared and crying softly cause I had my pinch and I hadn’t shaved. It really made me feel bad inside but I could understand the situation. So it was kind of the beginning of the first time when we met him at bonding period, where Dylan was analyzing us and wasn’t so sure about us. It was a little discouraging but we tried to be as positive as possible. Mary began crying as soon as we drove up in front of the orphanage and when we all went upstairs to his room she began crying a lot when she saw him. Nathalie was also crying with her, it was very emotional!!!! The caregivers and Medet felt really bad.
We went for supper with Nathalie, Jeremy and Becky (from Philadelphia) and Randy and Marsha (from Wisconsin) who are all in the process of adopting. We really had a nice time and it was a real good distraction after the day we had.
April 14, 2010
We went to the notary to sign some papers later we got ready to go to court. We got to court and there was the Director of the Orphanage and the Secretary of the Minister of Education. The Secretary of the judge came out and said the court was re-scheduled for April 19 at 3:00.
We weren’t able to see Dylan today but we were looking forward to seeing him tomorrow
We went to the notary to sign some papers later we got ready to go to court. We got to court and there was the Director of the Orphanage and the Secretary of the Minister of Education. The Secretary of the judge came out and said the court was re-scheduled for April 19 at 3:00.
We weren’t able to see Dylan today but we were looking forward to seeing him tomorrow
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